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[โ€“] fmstrat@lemmy.nowsci.com 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Wait, I hope you don't think it's your fault that you opened up?

[โ€“] apotheotic@beehaw.org 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It sounds like they mean that they projected their insecurities onto their partner, as opposed to just sharing the insecurity. The latter is good and healthy, the former is unpleasant at best and harmful at worst.