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I'm from the Y'all zone. Is it offensive to call trans people y'all? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by UltraGiGaGigantic@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If anyone can find more pixels for me i would appreciate it.

Thanks y'all.

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[–] Grenfur@lemmy.one 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I don't see the issue with using the term "guys" in the plural when referring to a group regardless of sex. That would align with the definition of the word. I'm pretty sure that's how they meant it.

[+] ShareMySims@sh.itjust.works -7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Unless you can ask a straight man how many guys he’s slept with, it isn’t gender neutral, no matter how resistant to this fact you are.

E: the fact that neither of you give a shit about the people telling you the term isn't gender neutral, doesn't apply to us, and that we don't feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us says it all. No matter how much mental gymnastics you do to convince yourself otherwise you are the ones choosing to be the problem instead of actually listening to others and showing some basic respect. It's an easy fix, too - all you have to do is give a minimal fuck about others.

[–] Grenfur@lemmy.one 7 points 1 week ago

don’t feel comfortable with you using it to speak to or about us

This actually is relevant, but wasn't part of your initial statement. If you don't like people using the term to refer to you then people should absolutely make an effort to not use that term when referencing you.

Saying there's some mental gymnastics on my part is a bit of stretch, it's how the word is defined in the dictionary. All I needed was to read. There's no disrespect here, if you don't like it then using the term to refer to you would be disrespectful, but I haven't done so.