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Dont be fake. Dont lie. Dont cheat.
Be kind, listen as much as you speak. Ask clarifying questions.
Dont assume mundane things mean what you think they mean. "Sometime" might mean "its a neat idea" to someone where to someone else say "sometime" as in very very soon. Like soon.
Ask, Don't assume.
No means no. When they say no thank you, you say "ok!" And walk away. You dont demand reasoning or another chance. Life isnt the movies.
No means no anytime.
Your name gets around if you are nice or if you are shitty. Dont be shitty.
Good sex is about communication not the "perfect" body. Porn isn't reality. Ask questions. Be receptive. Share. Talk.
Ask, dont assume.
Work on being a kind and good person. Keep yourself clean. No one owes you anything. Be someone worth hanging out with.