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What's a good response to someone saying "just change your gender"? (discuss.tchncs.de)

submitted 1 month ago by mouserat@discuss.tchncs.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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In my country it has been made easier to change the gender in your passport. I think it's a good step forward. But since this has officially been decided, multiple times people used the sentence above for any gender related issue, with derogatory attitude. For example when talking about quota of women at work or pay gaps. When I just look at them, because I'm missing a good response, they add something like "now it's easy, everyone can change it just as they like". I don't know how to concisely respond to this. There are multiple things wrong - as if discrimination would disappear by "changing" gender and the obvious dissent about it being a progressive step that everyone can decide for themselves now what the gender entry in their ID is. What would be a good short response in a situation like this?

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[–] whydudothatdrcrane@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 month ago

In general I agree with other responders, in that it is best to let them explain their bigotry. Having said that, and for the record:

a stealth trans woman will face misogynist discrimination at work
a non-stealth trans woman will face transmisogynist discrimination at work
a stealth trans man might be able to take advantage of passing privilege and male privilege combined [^1]
a non-stealth trans man will face transphobic and misogynist discrimination at work

If any of the above people are non heteronormative they will face homophobic discrimination either way.

Let alone that these legal transition procedures are wildly imperfect, and it would be unreasonable to assume that a person can as easily transition in law as they imply. In fact it might take years and $$ just to get just the most important paperwork done[^2]. And then what? Do they think that legal name change is like a Permanent Polyjuice Filter that allows you perfectly pass and live as the other gender?? P r e p o s t e r o u s

Besides, why would anyone transition in paper if they are not transgender? This is the most basic comeback. Ask them "Why don't you switch genders then? Grass might be greener on the other side.[^3]" They will probably respond "But I am not trans". "Neither am I", continue, "I just want equality at work, trans rights included".

(Source: Old social studies coursework on transgender issues, but some info might be outdated.)

[^1]: This is not to mean that he might face other types of discrimination in different settings, like reproductive health. [^2]: And don't even ask about non-binary provisions, more often than not they are not any. [^3]:You might also be better looking as a lady than what you look now, lmao, no just kidding don't say that.