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I'm here because 196 shows up on my feed and I really enjoy the memes.
I also have absolutely no problem with trans individuals or really any lifestyle anyone wants to live that isn't hurting anyone else.
That said, was there an incident recently on here that spurred the creation of this post? Did something go down?
Edit: Changed "bothering" to "hurting" because I frankly don't give a fuck about the feelings of the type of people that are "bothered" by LGBT+.
Someone made a comment saying that they'd be down to fuck a trans man if they hadn't transitioned yet because he likes women. It was controversial, but then one of the mods here decided to post a screenshot of that comment on the main, and the people in the comments were fucking horrendous. It's all "I'm an ally, but..." statements. Some of them were fine, but even the best ones were just people taking the opportunity to say that they don't wanna fuck trans people. And that's fine, you don't have to be attracted to trans people at all, but a trans safe space isn't the spot for that discussion at all.
The mod shouldn't have posted what's essentially bait, nor should they have not actually moderated the thread after posting the bait. I'm pretty sure the instance admin ended up having to handle it. The guy who made the original comment is saying it was him, but that's not really what matters. This controversy was more about properly moderating the space than anything.
Random person: exists
Assholes: Everyone needs to know whether I would fuck this person or not!
Gotcha. Thanks for taking the time to reply.
Someone asked if a straight guy would fuck a trans man, straight guy responded by saying he'd be down to fuck a trans man if they hadn't transitioned yet. In a later comment he said he was attracted to post op trans women and pre op trans men. It wasn't aggressive transphobia, but grouping trans people by their genitals in a space like this isn't going to be appreciated.
The real problem came with the thread the mod posted. If I didn't know better, I'd assume it was a baitpost. Mod made the post then quickly disappeared after people in the new thread started their "I'm an ally, BUT..." comments. Original commenter said he can't be friends with trans women because they all have chips on their shoulders. Someone said trans people are the Karens of the LGBT community and weren't wanted. Just a lot of shit that shouldn't be on an instance that is literally a trans safe space.
It's specifically before transition. Honestly to me the original comment is pretty okay, a bit easy to misunderstand. From what I got it was "yeah since I like women, and a trans man before transitioning looks like a woman, I'd be attracted to them. However the parts attractive to me are dysphoric for them which probably causes conflict" which seems like somebody thinking aloud about something they haven't put a lot of thought into ever.
Anyway the mod's post was bad, the comments were awful, bloody mess.
Yeah imo it'd be weird. Like in a theoretical sense you could be attracted to them but a relationship I don't think would work (for a straight dude which I am not so take that with a grain of salt)