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how to effectively do what you don't want to do? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 month ago by someoneFromInternet@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm a first-year university student. Right now, we're going over completely uninteresting topics that I’ve either already covered (or skipped) back in school. I have no motivation to complete the assignments because these subjects don’t interest me at all. I know that in the future there will be subjects I’ll enjoy, but for now, I’m stuck with all of this – and without any motivation.

As a result, I end up doing nothing all day, finding ways to distract myself just to avoid working on my university assignments. I don't like this at all because I’m not doing what I actually want to do. I "wait" until late at night, realizing I can’t procrastinate any longer, or I end up sacrificing sleep. It feels like a waste of time because I’m neither doing what I have to do nor what I want to do.

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[–] foggy@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

Motivation isn't a real thing. Stop leaning on it and waiting for it to show up out of the blue and support you.

Discipline is what you need. Sucks to hear, sorry for that.

Trust me on this: you told yourself it's easy. So do it. It's easy. If you don't, these inactions will low key create self hatred. You'll fall behind before you realize it, be inundated with work, and your subconscious will think back to this moment. All you'll hear is "Fuck this I hate this this sucks" maybe even "I hate myself".

Don't let it get there.

It's easy? Prove it.

If you get shit done while being true to yourself, self-hate is genuinely difficult.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago

Motivation is why you want to do a thing.

Discipline is how you achieve that thing.

[–] someoneFromInternet@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I knew it, but how to discipline myself? How to start?

[–] BrambinagStoneboots@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As shallow as it may sound, just start. Set a timer for 5 minutes and do it fir just 5 minutes. When the timer is up I bet you will continue.

[–] someoneFromInternet@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 month ago

ok, I'll try it, thx