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[–] qarbone@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I've never said a single word about competitions in relationships.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Correct. I did:

Some people’s relationships are literally built around arguments and competition and they last decades.

Then you said in reply:

If you have and this is still your answer, then whatever that’ll be your opinion and I’ll have mine. Some people smoke multiple packs a day and live to 80 but that doesn’t make smoking a healthy thing to do either.

So no, you didn't. You just suggested that what I said was equivalent to smoking multiple packs a day.

[–] qarbone@lemmy.world 1 points 1 month ago

Sorry, I didn't sanitize my output, assuming this would forestalled by the redirect to my other comment explaining I see how I was applying my implicit biases and connotations to what "argument" means.

I didn't call out the addition of competitions then because I didn't think this would sprawl as long as it did. I will do so now:

I never said a word about competitions and that, in my mind, has no inherent bearing on the healthiness of a relationship as there can be different types of competition. So we can immediately excise that from further discussion.

Addressing the sole part that is relevant now: I now agree arguments aren't necessarily angry, by everyone's definition. But that was the tone and definition with which I made the original comments up until that first reply to chicken.

You can see that segment as a revision of my first reply to you. Have a good whatever.