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Btw, bigotry does not need to be conscious or intentional or malicious to be real and cause harm, and you can be transphobic even when you're not trying to or believe you're are not

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[–] SSUPII@sopuli.xyz 9 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Absolutely, but the call out or response must be done appropriately without putting the other person in the defensive. This is true for any type of discussion.

I am cis an not know anyone that isn't. This means that everything I know about the community is via internet or television, and you know that can escalate, how information can start conflicting or just downright provide false dangerous information.

Writing this response, I actually found out I have a sensitivity bias due to all those Twitter posts screenshots about people getting very mad at others for something written. This is not good, because I do always think about what I write online but in this argument I am thinking more than I do usually. Thanks for making me notice it, I don't want this. I probably just need to talk more about this topic.

[–] Nalivai@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's the thing, you recognize that it's not nice being addressed the way you don't want to. You don't want to be called out the way you don't want to, use this feeling to understand how it's not nice to be referred to in transphobic manner.

[–] SSUPII@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Of course, I do not put a single gram of doubt into that.

I wanted to come out with something I noticed I did wrong, despite me not having to because I want to always get to a better version of myself and it being on topic.