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What old person thing did you think wasn't going to affect you until it does? (kbin.melroy.org)

submitted 6 months ago by Frozyre@kbin.melroy.org to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Memory issues, here. I didn't think I would have bad memory issues until just a while ago, I had a thought on the tip of my nose, but forgot it in seconds and how it took me minutes to recall it. That's a key sign right there.

Some people have better memory in old age, like it's unreal sometimes with what some of them can remember. While the average person forgets thoughts in moments.

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 5 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

I think the border symptoms do get worse and your medication resistance might increase (also, if your weight is increasing the same dosage will be less effective)... but in terms of the primary symptoms - I think they decrease. Or rather, I think our ability to cope and mask increases as we age. I'm currently a manager and keeping on top of other people doing their tasks and having their needs met is something I never imagined being able to do but now that I'm doing it it's all sort of just working.

We get more skilled at dealing with our executive disorder as we age. We plan better for the possibility that we'll be in an off mood or down a rabbit hole... we are (hopefully) more comfortable with sharing our condition with our relations so that partners are aware of our difficulties and strengths and can react accordingly - especially once we can overcome the deep shame about ADHD being a personal failing that was beaten into most of us... we give our brain time to indulge and better set internal expectations and accept that some weekends we'll never touch a feather duster while other weekends we'll deep clean our living space and just... be okay with that.

I'm sure in the extremes it's rough and there are studies that our ADHD is an increased risk factor for dementia so... eventually we're all probably fucked... but hopefully that's a long way off.