SHitty people all call their friends queerphobic slurs in both English and Spanish, I've seen it.

It doesn't excuse it, and it doesn't make their language and behavior less queerphobic. In fact, the fact that they use it so casually is just more evidence of how deeply entrenched queerphobia is, and the fact that they're willing to continue to normalize this in society with such callous disgregard for us LGBTQIA+ people does not reflect well on their character.

Sounds to me like you just surround yourself with 4chan tier people. Yikes.