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I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don't want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there's the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it'll come to me.

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[โ€“] Thorry84@feddit.nl 124 points 6 months ago (7 children)

I've found the most important part of finding a mate on Lemmy is to run Arch Linux. If you do not run Arch Linux, are you even trying?

I use Arch BTW

[โ€“] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 37 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Sorry, I'm only interested in serious partners. I use Gentoo.

[โ€“] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 4 points 6 months ago (1 children)

But is Gentoo reliable enough?

For a fresh breath, I use Mint.

[โ€“] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 3 points 6 months ago

Did you build a beowulf cluster for double your pleasure and double your fun?

[โ€“] racketlauncher831@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago

I usually run emerge firefox then have sex.

[โ€“] Valmond@lemmy.mindoki.com 1 points 6 months ago

But is Gentoo reliable enough?

For a fresh breath, I use Mint.

[โ€“] lemmylem@lemm.ee 12 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Speaking of Linux, where can I find a woman who's into that? Defcon?

[โ€“] match@pawb.social 13 points 6 months ago

You might consider going to conventions, meetups, or other hobby events (including for other interests you might have)

[โ€“] Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Bro, go to as many concerts and gigs as you can. Take a single mate, its crazy watching how many random interactions take place.

Dont be scared to move around and chat to people. No one cares if you are trying to find a new viewing spot and its a great convo starter. I wish I went to more when I was younger.

But number 1 rule, earplugs

[โ€“] Cataphract@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

.... So you're at a concert, wandering around the crowd (with earplugs) just conspicuously sliding up to different spots and striking up conversations with attractive people while they're enjoying the performance? I would emphasize you want something more like a festival where there are multiple events and people have down time in-between to socialize. A normal concert would be like wearing sunglasses to a theater and moving around to get "the best viewing spot" while talking to everyone which is creepy as hell and not a good setting to strike up an actual conversation.

[โ€“] Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Nah, I didnt explain myself well. You arent going just to chat to attractive people. I just see plenty of organic interactions whenever I go to a concert. You def have to enjoy the music and have a good time. Any social situation can be creepy or non creepy, the individual needs social awareness to understand the difference. I dont talk to people while the music is playing but inbetween songs or sets you can simply comment that was awesome. I agree with you about festivals, downtime is good to chat and chill

[โ€“] Cataphract@lemmy.ml 2 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I was just worried someone might take it to heart without realizing the nuance lol. You or I may do well, but someone asking such a broad question like finding a partner probably doesn't have that much social awareness (it's been answered so many times and really all boils down to the individuals or specific situations like the scenarios we presented). I was just imagining a guy walking around in cargo shorts with socks and sandals awkwardly screaming "hi" at everyone with a pair of orange earplugs sticking out.

[โ€“] NegativeInf@lemmy.world 9 points 6 months ago

Throw on some striped knee high socks and you're in high demand.

[โ€“] Nikls94@lemmy.world 3 points 6 months ago
  1. use Arch Linux
  2. use a Cast-Iron Skillet
  3. be Vegan
[โ€“] saltesc@lemmy.world 2 points 6 months ago

slips off seat

[โ€“] bastonia@lemmy.ml 1 points 6 months ago

Opensuse it the way. if I had time to waste and no responsabilities Id certainly use Arch though.

[โ€“] 42yeah@lemm.ee 1 points 6 months ago

It it just me or did you just get so hot?