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How do I start same-sex dating and romance? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) by KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've been fighting off writing this for a while now. I even considered making a throwaway for it, but I guess if its too embarrassing I can delete it.

I've sorta come to accept I'm bi in recent years, and I am wondering how I should go about dating and courtship in regards to dating within my same sex (male). Especially since I find femininity to be a key attraction point. I also haven't dated or had sex in like, three years or more. Its been a while, I kinda stopped caring for myself and focused on work, I am slowly trying to become an interesting person again, get back in shape but its hard. I dunno, man. I'm in my mid-30s and I am trying to figure out what I want out of the world. There's a bit of lust involved. And I definitely need a hug at the very least.

Furthermore, I live in the Southern part of the US, and the amount of trans hate has me actively wanting out of here (I'm aiming for Colorado) and dating in this part of the Southeast is already difficult as is, in my prior experiences.

How does one navigate this kind of world after coming out? How do I deal with the stigma especially since in the states, there's a renewed interest in putting people back in the closet?

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[–] fraksken@infosec.pub 21 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I found dating apps may be helpful. I'm personally partial to romeo as I trust it most in terms of privacy over grindr.

I'm not a person who goes out a lot to parties or dancing.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 1 points 7 months ago

There's also HER, or Hinge, or Bumble (latter's not necessarily queer focused though, using queer here as a shortterm for lgbtq+. But it's friendly).