It’s a word that describes a phenomenon with precision, which often allows for more nuanced conversations that are ultimately more challenging and useful. I’m not advocating for your silence by using it, just illustrating that your actions are also gross.

You’re conflating “men” with “patriarchy,” which just reinforces harmful stereotypes about gender and sex. You’ve created a binary where one side is “bad” and the other is “good,” and used stereotypical narratives about gender to do it. You’re using the same harmful logic that the people I’m sure you most disagree with use.