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If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing

Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post...

Especially if its related to political content

You never know if you're going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall

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[โ€“] Catpurple@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 8 months ago

Yep, that's me. When I still actively used reddit, I felt this with every message, was always afraid I was off the mark, or didn't read the room, or said something wrong or ignorant.

I just turned off notifications and ignored my karma count to just post through it. Though, I usually said things that either never got any votes, or that people seemed to generally agree with. And I was relieved whenever I did notice the numbers going up instead of down, and occasionally worked up the courage to check responses and continue conversations, but usually nothing.

This has really not changed since moving to Lemmy, and really just persists through every website. It sucks, I mostly just don't comment.