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Does anyone else get inbox fright? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 8 months ago by Hextubewontallowme@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing

Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post...

Especially if its related to political content

You never know if you're going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall

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[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 12 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

What's in your anonymous inbox can't hurt you irl. If they're right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they're personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.

Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn't that be peaceful....

Edit to add: you're probably going to get more posted comments from people who don't experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there's a circle of silent friends supporting you!

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 8 months ago

In my experience, I'm far less likely to encounter aggressive and unpleasant people in a club or a bar than I am online. I don't fear social situations, and I even speak and perform regularly in front of large groups, but I get the feeling OP has. When I find an online community where I don't get the really rabid comments in my inbox, I tend to fixate on it and post only there.