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There are a few people, definitely, that I've thought about reaching out to. I have them on Facebook, could literally just send them a text at any moment.
The problem is twofold: the first; crippling anxiety. I worry that I'd be an inconvenience to them, or worsen their day for my having contacted them. I worry that maybe they never liked me in the first place - after all, they never reached out either.
The second issue is a general loss of social skills. The pandemic turned me into a hermit, and even though I've been in Uni both before the pandemic and after, my social skills have never recovered. I can't just join a group like other people do. I don't get on with people super easily in group settings; I'm better in one-on-one situations.
Certainly, this may just be anxiety. But it's that what if question that stops me from reaching out.