I think this comment 100% reflects how I feel as well, and I especially agree with your roommate. I’m a decently tech savvy person as well and between learning about federation and overthinking which instance to join it took 20-30 minutes to join Lemmy. I think the people in my life who don’t enjoy stuff like this as much will need me to help set up Lemmy or they won’t join at all.

I agree with you.

On Mastodon, a few weeks ago this topic was raised after the default mobile apps started to streamline signups for the "mastodon.social" server (equivalent to lemmy.ml here). Many were displeased by it, saying that "we cannot have only one big instance, it's Twitter all over again" and something on that line.

But I think it is a good thing, personally, especially since mastodon have an account migration feature. Let the people experience the service, then give them the choices. Other apps and servers use this approach (eg. Mammoth for Mastodon app, Vivaldi browser's instance...)

Lemmy is not as mature right now as Mastodon was during the Twitter migration. This is a challenge, but presents some opportunities for the devs and the community to see what works and what didn't work for all this federation thing. But it does have potential to be "mainstream".