Many guys don't realize but a spectrum lady is perfect. They get to the point, tell you when something is wrong, and are excellent listeners. They also have incredibly complex hobbies that seem really simple, like knitting or baking, that can pay off for helpers around them as snacks and gifts. If you ever felt you didn't find the person who speaks to you, think different.

[–] pearsaltchocolatebar@discuss.online 63 points 10 months ago (2 children)

As someone married to a spectrum lady, that description is absolutely not universal.

[–] DessertStorms@kbin.social 33 points 10 months ago (1 children)

As someone who is a spectrum lady, yeah, we're not a stereotypical monolith..

[–] undefinedValue@programming.dev 2 points 10 months ago

Except for trains, right?

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 19 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Yeah my wife has been playing minecraft for two weeks lol. Someday she may pick up one of those valuable hobbies, but idgaf and I’m not betting on it

And yeah, don’t skip on autistic women, I love two, but don’t fetishize them either

[–] Baccata@lemmy.world 37 points 10 months ago

Oh, the old "I know somebody with X so everybody with X is the same" ...

[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 28 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Those attributes are an important part of what I like about her! Very direct, very plain to a fault. She has never and probably will never have an interest in playing interpersonal games. Zero drama. Loyal, because she doesn't like change. She's obsessive in her interests meaning we both easily get sufficient time to be our own person.

Sure, she's exceptionally sensitive about certain textures and sounds, but I understand because I'm the same way. Meeting her was like living a life where everyone speaks this language that I just wasn't born with, and finding someone else who is just as confused as I am was really validating.

So yes, I suggested that we marry, and she says yes you will suffice... which is perhaps the highest compliment she has ever paid me.

[–] Dkarma@lemmy.world 16 points 10 months ago (1 children)

I was happy for you until that last line...oof.

[–] henfredemars@infosec.pub 14 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Haha, well, I told my family that a person has to get to know her. She seems bitter at first but that's just how she is. Besides, they don't have to live with her. I do.

Not using her outward appearance, countenance, or facial expressions as indicative of her true feelings is part of the package. It takes getting used to, and it's not right for everyone.

"Sufficient" is her elation.

[–] Rolando@lemmy.world 5 points 10 months ago (1 children)

she says yes you will suffice…

FWIW that totally made sense to me. When I read that, I caught my breath or my heart skipped a beat or something.

[–] Archer@lemmy.world 4 points 10 months ago (1 children)

It sounds like the important missing context is that no one else had ever been sufficient before

[–] bnjmn@lemm.ee 2 points 10 months ago

Well shit, when you put it that way

[–] Psychodelic@lemmy.world 7 points 10 months ago

Ok, but what about the most important thing? Are they freaks 😈

[–] ghost_of_faso2@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Gross

[–] Omega_Haxors@lemmy.ml 2 points 10 months ago (1 children)

100% they thought they were being progressive with that take.

[–] ghost_of_faso2@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 10 months ago

What is 'manic pixie girl' lol; dont objectify/generalize your partner, especially a neurodivergent one.

[–] Sagar@sopuli.xyz 1 points 10 months ago

What in the world is a "spectrum lady". I have some friends who'd be interested in this adjective being assigned to a lady!