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is there a limit to the point that i will find women attractive? (aussie.zone)

submitted 11 months ago by Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Context, I'm 30 now and i will find women my age and up attractive, but 15 years ago a 35 year old women would never have been attractive to me.

As I've aged younger women are less and less attractive (thankfully)

But when I'm 60 will 60 year old women be attractive to me?

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[–] Disco_Dougie@lemmy.world 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (3 children)

I don't think you can date an 18 year old as a 30 year old without an automatic abuse of power. Even so, what does that say as the (middle aged) adult?

[–] HelixDab2@lemm.ee 4 points 11 months ago

Take that to the logical conclusion, and no one can date anyone else because there's always some power imbalance. Oh, you're on track to graduate with a BS in 4 years? Sorry, it's unethical to date someone that's changed their major twice.

Given that I work and my wife does not, oh no!, I have too much power in the relationship because I'm the only one bringing in money!, so she can never consent to anything! Which kinda eliminates her autonomy.

By abuse of power, I mean someone that has a degree of power or authority over another person, such as a supervisor at work, a professor with one of their students, a cop (seriously, no one should ever date a cop, hard stop), a mentor and an intern, and so on. A 30yo that goes to the same gym as a 18yo has no power over that 18yo, and no direct way to coerce them into a relationship.

[–] charlytune@mander.xyz 2 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Wait, 30 is middle aged??

[–] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 4 points 11 months ago

Nah gotta be between 500 and 1500 for middle age

[–] Disco_Dougie@lemmy.world 1 points 11 months ago

Sure feels like it. I am so tired and my back hurts.

[–] Teal_Tiger@reddthat.com 1 points 11 months ago

LOL

That's completely absurd. Age =/= Power :-D