[Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation

select mates

Where are you picking up that kind of lingo for human interactions, friend? Maybe it's just a quirk of yours, but I only ever see this kind of language from incels and incel circles, and it's not just the "mate" line, but the whole of your post

So I'll opine. You're seeing something that's confirming to a preconceived notion. Not gonna say there are no women who don't like their bad boys or actually toxic people--god knows I know some of those women--but it is hardly the standard, and your anecdotal accounts mean you're subject to things like social class and circles, culture, and region. Besides that, it could still be plainly untrue what you see, but its possible you are only even registering the women who fit this idea. There could be 20 women in happy, healthy relationships, but you're not thinking about them. You're only considering the woman in a toxic relationship, and when you try and recall the dynamics you know, only thos come to mind

This is fairly common mindset for incels, red-pillers, that whole group. They'll talk about how easy it is for women to have sex, but it's because their idea of women is already "something to have sex in", so they're not open to the idea that there are plenty of women who do struggle with dating

And besides that, who are you to judge the men they're with? You say they'll avoid 10 awesome dudes for [cavalcade of generic reactionary insults], but are those 10 dudes really awesome? You're not dating them, nor do you have a woman's lived experience to watch out for certain yellow or red flags that those men may clearly be displaying. Alternatively, maybe what makes an awesome dude to you is not actually what makes them awesome to women. Maybe the guys you're calling bad boys aren't as bad as you think, is what I'm saying

Or yeah, maybe you've just seen and know a bunch of women who have made some poor choices. For whatever reason, it does happen, after all. Women are not immune to subscribing to ideas of toxic masculinity, and we can be vicious about it. We shouldn't, but we can

Juts try and make sure that whatever spaces you're occupying, especially the kind you're picking up that incel jargon from, you think critically about what they're saying. It is so incredibly easy to get sucked into the manosphere