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It's interesting, I'm sure you're right that this does work on some people and I have no evidence to suggest you're lying about having personally seen it a lot. But as with other commenters, this just isn't my experience at all. Thinking about my straight female friends, I can't recall anyone going for a guy who even remotely resembles this. And thinking about my straight male friends, obviously none of them are like this at all otherwise they wouldn't be my friends.
For what it's worth, I grew up super working class poor (dad worked down a coal mine) and a lot of my oldest friends are still in similar situations. Nowadays I also know a lot of quite well off middle class folks. But neither group would put up with this kind of behaviour from partners / friends / themselves. Whatever the difference is with your friend group, I don't think it's that.