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I realized why I like friendships with lesbians
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I hate to say it, but I think you're massively overgeneralizing, if not actually stereotyping lesbians. Of course some gay women are going to treat you differently based on their sexual orientation (just like some straight women), but I have a hard time believing most people do this. Myself and the vast majority of the people I know don't.
So... What about asexual women? The elderly? Prepubescent? trans women? I bet cis, gay, adult women aren't the only ones treating you differently. Obviously I don't know you, but I bet you're treating women you have no chance of having sex with differently---perhaps subconsciously. I genuinely believe if you woke up tomorrow and forgot that sexual orientation was a thing, you'd treat everyone the same and this difference would disappear. But that's just my 2 cents...
Well, my friend. I think on the other hand that you are massively overproblematizing and turning this about something entirely different. You're taking me sharing a positive insight about me and my friendships and forcing it into something ugly. I think you should maybe ask yourself why this is your reaction. Those are just my 2 cents.
No, OP is right. I had a similar experience. Not all, but I found I can relate to lesbians differently and it's because they see the world through a different lense. I don't feel like I'm being judged the same way as I am around straight women.
I bet you have a hard time maintaining relationships. Best of luck.
What a shitty take