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I currently work part-time as a bus driver and I just wanna say that it's incredibly hard to determine who is right or wrong when you didn't see what happened and you're just going by what each kid says. If you only see the tail end of a fight, you might wrongfully think the kid retaliating is the bully. 99% of the time it's easier to just separate the kids and/or punish them both equally since it's impossible to determine who the victim and the perpetrator is. It sucks, it feels really bad, but that's the reality of the situation.
This may have been the unfortunate reality 20 years ago. But security cameras are cheap and ubiquitous. If it's on school property (including school busses), then this should be simple. Separate the kids, review the footage, and punish the kid who started it. The one who didn't start it gets an apology and assurances that they're safe and it won't happen again. The whole "punish them both equally" is insane and sociopathic.
The worst kind of bullies will just learn what the cameras are going to capture and not
do you think the schools have the resources to "launch an investigation" every time there's a fight? you may end up with one side of the story anyways, that's ridiculous. don't ask from a school stuff with what the justice system struggles.
Most of the time teachers don't care when kid is bullied, i mean long time ago, when i was in school teachers ignored bullies, saying that they're just playing, when quiet kids got beat up, but when quiet kids retaliate, just like in the meme) teachers come to help) i kinda get it that teachers don't want trouble and when quiet kids endures, teacher won't intervene even if quiet kids gonna ask the teacher, but bully won't gonna endure and gonna screech all over when getting beat up, so i kinda understand why teachers side with bully most of the time, p.s i was quiet kid)
The thing is that if someone is bothering you, then you need to go to the teacher. If you set a precedent that one kid is bothering you, then the teacher is more likely to believe you if you ever snap and hit your bully they'll be more understanding. But if you never say anything and then suddenly snap, then obviously it looks from the outside like you're the bully.
If you tell then you're a narc and everyone will think less of you anyway. The only thing that works is standing up for yourself which, thanks to zero-tolerance policies, is no longer an option.
I swear in 5-6th grade It often felt like the teachers themselves bullied me
It didn't felt like that, it was like that, coming from personal experience, I've finished college and enrolled to university and soon will be getting diploma, and I've tried to go to school and college where i was, and you know what, it's rarely in your whole life that you can see such rude people, they called me alot of slurs, implied that I'm couldn't make it (as they always told me) and praised bullies that was studiying with me in college and school and dropped out of university