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Free Internet Non-Believers (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by starlord@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I believe in an open internet, FOSS, privacy by default, etc. I migrated away from Google by self-hosting Nextcloud. I prefer messaging apps like Molly, SimpleX, Threema, Matrix, etc. over standard SMS. I love the Fediverse (Lemmy, Mastodon, etc.).

But everyone I live with and everyone I know simply refuses to take part. I can't interact with them socially because they're all on Facebook. I can't communicate with them because they all use group texts for SMS/RCS. I feel like I'm living in a different part of the world and am completely disconnected from everything that's going on around me (with the people I want to interact).

My question is: does anyone else experience this, and how do you reconcile it? I want to share photos and clever posts with my family but they aren't on the Fediverse. I want to communicate securely with them but they only want to SMS. I want to share documents but they only use Google Docs.

There are people I've met on the Fediverse and through some secure messaging apps with whom I've struck up a rapport, but these are still (predominately) strangers, and I'd really like to involve the people I care about in these exciting new times. They just wont participate.

I feel like I've invited everyone in my family to go on a great, grand vacation away and I'm the only one who's packed.

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[–] starlord@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I don't really blame them for not making a switch; I understand their stance/reasoning. It's just depressing to be the one guy left out, like I don't get to dance with anyone at the party because I don't like the music.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.world 17 points 1 year ago

You want them to download a specific app to talk to you while you refuse to download a specific app to talk to them.

Just sit on that for a bit. That’s exactly how they see this. It’s got nothing to do with privacy at all.

[–] MrFunnyMoustache@lemmy.ml 3 points 1 year ago

I get it, but at the same time, you shouldn't let yourself be bitter about it, or it will soil your interactions with them. Enjoy your IRL interactions with them, and send them an email next time you want to contact them, since email is probably the only ubiquitous federated platform in the world, and it is likely to remain this way for a long time.