[A picture of Pepe the frog frowning while holding a gun to its head]
I hit another level this weekend /r9k/
>be me
>like this coworker
>finally get the courage to talk to her
>holy shit things are going well
> invites me to hangout on friday
> says her friends are burning books that go against Christianity
>seriously wtf
>whatever she’s hot
>gets the address
>it’s friday
>don't understand if I’m supposed to bring my own books
>buy $300 worth of anti-christian books
>put them in two big trash bags
>head over to book burning
>See coworker
>say hi
>"what are in the bags anon..?"
>"I...I brought books for the burning."
>"Anon I was joking about the book burning"
>it’s a normal fucking party
>don't know what to do
>pretend to get a call
>walk away and leave books
> start running home leaving my car
I snuck back on Saturday and got my car, but I think I have to fucking quit work now. Theres no way I can see her again.
What should I do? I have a shift on Wednesday.
So it would be better for them to be dishonest again and lie about their issues? I don’t think that would lead to a very healthy relationship.
You can still be honest without telling someone your whole life story. And even if you can’t, it’s still better than lying (and I doubt you’d be a very good liar in that case anyway).
I mean, for them, lying would actually be better, if they don't understand they have a problem and are trying to fix it. Obviously for literally everyone else it would be better if they were honest.
Because if they don't understand that it's a problem and they're trying to fix it, then by being honest they would simply be advertising that they're a shitty person. Shitty people advertising that they're shitty don't get very far, they have to be dishonest about their shittyness for anyone to associate with them.
And believe me, there are a lot of shitty people that are reaaaally good at lying, most often because they are able to successfully deceive themselves and thus actually believe what they're lying about. I mean how often have you heard that someone "wants to change" but doesn't actually do anything about it? That is lying.
The only real solution is to not be shitty anymore, which is why I said, when someone understands what they're doing is a problem and tries to fix it, then it's completely fine again.