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What advice would you give a young adult about to move out? (midwest.social)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by clark@midwest.social to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I am asking this question because the young adult in question, is me. I am to move out in a few years, and it feels impossible to move far away from my hometown (which I want). I have no idea how to juggle both finances, a job, and the move itself. With the global inflation going on, it feels impossible getting hold of a decent apartment to rent.

What advice would you give someone like me? What should I keep in mind and prepare* myself for? What are your experiences moving out, or moving away from your hometown? How long did the process take for you, and how did you manage keeping a job that paid all your taxes and rent? If you could look back and give younger you some advice, what would you tell them?

(If it provides any context, I am North European.)

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[–] BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee 12 points 1 year ago

Lots of good advice in this thread. My contributions are to say don't move in with friends you aren't willing to lose. I did it despite the warnings and it turned out terribly. I can't say I regret it but depending on how the situation turns out for you it could range from losing someone youve been close to for most of your life to downright traumatic.

Don't be afraid of renting rooms for a while (as a male, can't say that's a good idea for women or people in marginalized groups). It's cheaper, less binding, and frees up some funds to develop other areas such as reliable transportation, good furniture, etc.

Take your time finding a place and be realistic with what you can afford. Being on your own is expensive and it's important to make sure you're moving somewhere you actually want to live and that will give you access to the things you need. Be it groceries, good job prospects, or education.

I'm from the US so I'm not sure how things are in your country but it's rough out there. Take the time you have now to figure out a career field that you'd want to work in and that would provide the income for you to be financially independent. Immerse yourself in the culture and structure of that group. Find community pages, forums, websites and programs. Read it all and get an idea of what you'll be getting yourself into. You may become aware of adjacent industries or specialties within that field that interest you more than the job you were originally thinking about.

Best of luck!