Also sex is fun but not some revelatory experience(but what do I know, Im just a lesbian, a group which famously has many more orgasms than average), eo not base your self esteem on having it or not having it.

It also isn't a substitute for intimacy, which when I talk to people who are weird about not having sex, I see them conflate needing a hug or to express their feelings with having sex.

Rant over.

[–] Bongles@lemm.ee 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

To be fair, Someone that has "more orgasms than average" saying not to worry about it is like a rich guy saying money doesn't buy happiness.

[–] OurToothbrush@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

No, it is like a rich guy saying "Money doesn't make you more mature, spiritually enlightened or a better person"

[–] eldain@feddit.nl 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you for your rant.

To add: Your SO is not a replacement for a social network. Don't hunt for the one, place people you click with at all distance levels as you get to know them. A healthy social network leads to healthy relationships.