I am still playing around with Lemmy like I am sure a lot of people are. I have accounts on multiple instances to see how things are and what not.
I understand why beehaw decided to defederate with .world, I just didn't think much about the consequence of it after it happened. Today I was browsing the !anime@lemmy.ml from my beehaw account and looked at the same from my this .ml account and realized I am missing so posts.. Any user from .world posting a discussion thread for an anime I watch from, I can't participate in..
I could create my own discussion post about the anime, but now there are two posts going about the same thing. beehaw users would be able to see and participate in this now, but every other instance will see two posts. Duplicating the same thing and splitting the discussion unnecessarily.
I love the power, control, and principles behind Lemmy and the wider fediverse, its just something that is annoying me at the moment. Its amazing for taking care of spam instances (70k users with no posts? yea right), but when one large/popular instance spanks another, it can be problematic. Thinking of maybe self hosting (which I am no stranger to) as a way to avoid an issue like this in future.
Still like Lemmy and wanting to push through these "quirks", but just wanted to vent a little.
until beehaw defederate your own instance
That is also another concern of mine for self hosting. I know the fediverse is facing a massive bot problem right now and some suggestions of doing whitelists or blacklists to help combat this, so having my own private instance could even be a worse move in the near future.
Yeah, hosting your own Lemmy instance will quickly turn into the equivalent of running your own mail server. It's just not something you want to deal with because you'll spend hours dealing with blacklists, spam, government requests and other BS.
I'm sure things will stabilise and servers will emerge that get the balance between moderation, federation and uptime right, and then you can migrate to their instance and set up a recurring donation to pay for what it would cost you to run your own server.
That depends. I think a one user instance as jumping point to the fediverse won't be too much hassle.
What should I do to get all these? Am I hosting my mail server in a wrong way?
So you're running a mail server and you never had any issues with delivery because your IP address ended up in a blacklist?
I think it was in UCEPROTECT-Level2 or UCEPROTECT-Level3 a couple of times, but it wasn't an issue because these are a subnet and ASN level blacklists that offer paid "whitelisting", so no sane person uses these abominations anyway. My emails can sometimes end up in a Spam folder for whatever reason, but I don't recall ever having them completely bounced.
If they would go as far as to defederate with your specific instance, you should seriously reconsider whether their instance or their community actually have any value to you
Even in the most safe space-y parts of Mastodon (which has way more experience with trolls & assholes than Lemmy just by existing for longer), single user instances don't get defederated without reason. So I'd be more in favor of reflecting inwards and wondering if there is a specific reason why they defed'd me.
Defederating just for the sake of defederating is, of course, something extraordinary. But having a reason to defederate != having legitimate reason to defederate. After all, instance admins are not almighty gods with infallible moral compasses, they are just humans.
I'm more concerned about whitelists where I need to apply for federation with the big players or some sort of automated bot solution that may inadvertently blacklist small, legitimate servers.
Then we need enough communities and users outside of big player instances. The power is in our own hands.
Also, if they still do implement whitelists and make an application process more than just asking nicely, refer to my previous comment.