Lost my wife (34) to cancer last month and I haven't found any good resources to help me. How do you cope with their loss? Please remove if this isn't allowed.

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[–] dingus@lemmy.ml 54 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You need support, whether that's through a counselor, a support group, or other friends. I'm hesitant to say more than that, because this is one of the hardest things someone can go through. I wish you the best.

[–] Sharpiemarker@feddit.de 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for the recommendation. I've got an upcoming appointment with a grief counselor. Hoping to figure out how to cope in the interim.

[–] medgremlin@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's definitely a short term coping mechanism, but it can help you stay steady until your appointment: try to just go through the motions. Just stick to routines, and try not to think about much of anything. Mundanity can be an effective tool in this situation, and once you meet with the grief counselor, you can work with them on how to deal with this moving forward.

I want to be very clear though: I am suggesting a short term survival mechanism until you can get professional care. This is not a healthy long-term solution and should not be considered as such.

[–] Sharpiemarker@feddit.de 6 points 1 year ago

I appreciate the suggestion. I'm not sure that I'm coping very well at the present anyway. I've been using audiobooks and podcasts to keep my mind from spiraling.