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So, on pronouns. (lemmy.ml)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by shapis@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml
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I have a few questions on how to best behave to be as welcoming and inclusive as possible without sounding bad. I hope you guys don't hate me.

I'm just a straight male. Are my pronouns he/him? Is that how I should tell people? Do you actually tell them as you meet them ? Do I have to wait for a certain social cue ?

How about online. Should I tell people or have it on my personal profile somewhere?

And about respecting other people's pronouns. How do i figure them out ? Is it a big faux pas if I don't before I know them ? Is it a faux pas if I refer to someone I just met and I assumed to be male as he/him?

I've never seen anyone referring to anyone irl by non conventional pronouns. Is it an actual thing or is it currently being pushed to make the world a more inclusive place?

I'd love some help with all of this.

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[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thank you for validating that you are just a concern troll.

Either people get to self-describe, or they do not. You really don't believe any of this, you just want to seem 'concerned'.

[–] posthexbearposting@hexbear.net 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not concerned. I'm just calling you out for being a moron and a transphobe. Your time will come lib. stalin-gun-1

[–] wintermute_oregon@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I am neither, but you violated your own rules in your first reply. It just shows you're a concern troll. Why is it that so many people from Hexbear think people won't see their BS when it's so obvious? I am neither a moron nor a transphobe. I am consistent, which is something you are not. So you are only here to troll. I will be blocking you now as I can't be bothered with trolls.

[–] rjs001@lemmygrad.ml 8 points 1 year ago

You’re comment is so obviously the actual troll. Read before you comment such ridiculous things