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It's not your opinion that's bad, it's being so needy that you feel you need to be around people all the time. That makes you one of those people that feed on the energy of others, which is harmful to them. Gross.
By talking to others, I'm feeding on their energy? I never said that I forcefully disturb others so they have to talk to me or something. I just enjoy the casual day-to-day chats with my coworkers.
But if calling strangers gross on the internet makes you feel good, I hope you have a lovely day.
They are your co-workers, not your friends. Running in to you at the coffee machine does not mean they care to go through the meaningless idle chit chat that means nothing but is a waste of time. If you make actual friends at work, fine, they probably welcome you. Otherwise, you're just another person we are all forced to tolerate to get through another terrible day. Worse, your desire to come in helps legitimize the push to force people back to the office. So that's butt kissing, if you don't like seeing yourself as a social vampire. But the main point here is, we go to see our friends. At an office, we are forced together. In a forced setting like that, more often then not, your desire to talk can be taxing and a waste of time to everyone else. You want to talk? Do it with your friends, your family. Leave everyone else the hell alone.
That seems like a very depressing mindset to have. And don't generalize your view onto everyone else like that. You say this as if I'm forcing everyone else at work to talk to me, which I am not. I am not even the one to initiate most conversations.
If you set an example of wanting to be in the office, that will be expected of the rest of us... so yes, it kind of is forcing everyone else, if not to talk to you, at least to be in the office. That puts you on management's side of the war. No thank you.
I actually work in a company where anyone can work from home if they want. It's just that many of us chose not to for various reasons.
So I'm sorry for having a preference different than yours, but if your management uses me as a single example to keep people in the office against their will, I think that's s problem with the management, not with me.
Wow, you are so sure of yourself. Your needing others can’t possibly be the problem. Ok. Glad you don’t work for us.