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You probably shouldn’t decide how much to respect someone for what job they do. Unless they do like a really sketchy or immoral “job”, like a hitman or a scammer or something.
I think the only reason to respect someone is for what they do.
What better measure is there, even if job is only part of that? better to form my opinion of people for what they do rather than the traditional historical measures.
A persons actions are important, but so are personality and motivations. A job isn’t “what someone does because that’s who they are as a person”, it’s the thing that they do because they need to pay their bills. It’s one thing that you know for sure that they have ulterior motives for - money.
I respect people for how they act towards me and others. Are they generous, or selfish? Do they admit when they’re wrong, or do they double down on it? When they have power over others, are they cruel, or are they kind?
This is way more important than what job someone has. Often, what job someone has only gives you a guesstimate as to how wealthy their parents were, and little beyond that.
Disagree, I think that the way someone decides to spend their time says a lot about them. Sometimes you just need to work for money, I get that, but often times people just do whatever they fell into because they're too lazy to chase their dreams or do something actually beneficial for society
Dogshit take tbh
Clearly touched a nerve
Yes, gaslighting idiocy tends to touch a nerve when people are trying to have a good faith discussion 🤷
I think I'm being pretty reasonable. If anything, I stated my opinion and I'm being attacked for it. I'm not trying to play victim, but all the feedback I've gotten from this comment is hostile
Really? You think THIS is being reasonable?
let me clue you in: it isn't. It's judgmental and makes unfair victim-blaming assumptions. It's no wonder that people react with hostility to such a presumptuous and scornful take on people just doing their best to get by.
I clearly state that sometimes people gotta work just to get by and I respect that. But for many of us, especially here on lemmy who tend to be older, this isn't the case. I get that it's a touchy subject, no-one wants to be told they are lazy or that they're living their life wrong, but I believe that there's some truth to it. I don't know what the sollution is, but I think admitting to it a society is the first step.
Because they need money to survive, and their parents can't help them financially sp they cant get a degree in whatever field, even though every position in the field requires it?
I mention that sometimes this is the case and there's nothing wrong with that. But you don't necessarily need a degree to do meaningful work or to chase your dreams, just effort.