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[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 13 points 1 year ago (3 children)

People who worry about “flexibility” are aliens to me

How are you in a material spot to just bounce around because you want to?

[–] FactuallyUnscrupulou@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This person admitted they won't actually carry through with it, they just want to sound like a wealthy person.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

They clearly are wealthy enough that their brain is half rotted, causing them to say things like “I’ve seen many people living in poverty because they refuse to move”

Absurd

[–] FactuallyUnscrupulou@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Moving across state lines is simple. Just reserve a U-haul box truck and off you go!

brainworms

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Literally, when I told them they were detached from reality they responded “what? No I’m not, it’s not expensive I just rent a truck and move!”

I got a new job after the pandemic and got 3k in relocation compensation, and that didn't even cover the most bare bones of a move.

[–] GiddyGap@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's not that I necessarily want to. Jobs just usually end one way or the other after a while. In my experience, renting really opens up the job market. Move wherever the new job is. That's a lot harder when you own.

[–] LesbianLiberty@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I just can't imagine leaving my community so easily for a job I guess, but I imagine plenty of folks must do it all the time.

[–] robot_dog_with_gun@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

congrats on having a community.

i hate it here get me out

[–] LesbianLiberty@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

Find a big queer city >:) even if you aren't queer there'll be plenty of fine folks and communists abound

[–] GiddyGap@lemm.ee 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Yeah, I guess everyone has different priorities. I just refuse to let myself or my family live in a crappy situation because I want to stay in a specific location. I often see people living in poverty because they refuse to leave a place to take a job elsewhere. Doesn't make sense to me, but everyone has their own life.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

People don’t live in poverty “because they refuse to move”

They live in poverty because they are stuck there, and moving to somewhere else is incredibly expensive and difficult

Your worldview is utterly detached from the reality of the common person

[–] GiddyGap@lemm.ee 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not sure how that's "detached from reality."

I've moved a ton. It has never cost me anything other than the cost of renting a moving truck and sore legs for a few days. Certainly beats living in a place with no job or some random low-paying job.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] GiddyGap@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Lol that you think your experience is the norm while claiming that others are simply fools for choosing not to move

The news flash here brain genius, is that YOU can do that, almost everyone else cannot

[–] GiddyGap@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

All right. Fair enough. I don't think that I took everyone else for a fool, but I never saw it as a very expensive or hard thing to move. Not in my experience. But others could have a different experience. Thanks for the heads-up.

[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks for reflecting o7

[–] LesbianLiberty@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

Yeah I mean, I came from a very poor region and it was hard to move for me, but it was made easier because my family was beginning to cut me off for being queer anyway and I had the privilege of WFH too. I know lots of people who'd move out of their region if not for their family supporting them in some way they can't get elsewhere (or they don't think so, atleast).

[–] NuPNuA@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

I'm the same as you, but I recognise that I had the privilege of being born in the capital of a very centralised country so there's little reason for me to move to better my lot. If I'd grown up in a deprived former mining town up north I'd probably have been long gone as soon as I could.

[–] bagend@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago

I like the flexibility too, I just wish I could have it without giving some leech half my paycheck.