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Have you considered letting them party and being a cool responsible adult that sticks around to make sure everyone is safe. I had some friends growing up with parents like this. Their theory was the kids are going to party anyway so if you give them a safe space its less likely to go poorly. Anyone who got a little too sick or emotional ended up with an experienced adult to help them recover.
Stock the fridge with Pedialyte, waffle mix, orange juice, and bacon, and your house will be the favorite of the kids around the neighborhood.
It's important as the adult to help the totally-legal kids who don't quite know how to handle alcohol recover from a bad night.
"Yeah dude just encourage kids to drink at your house bro enable underage drinking dude what are you a loser bro just give the kids some alcohol"
It's better than them going out somewhere to do it. They need to learn to drink responsibly and do it safely.
Yeah I'm gonna catch a felony charge so somebody else's kids can have fun...
Edit because I want to bring home my point: there is a big difference between teaching your kid how to responsibly handle alcohol and enabling kids who are not your own to drink at your house. It is not paradoxical to say
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Some parents did this back when I was in high school. The police were called and the parents were arrested.
They also tried claiming the whole "We're just trying to be safe" thing, but it didn't work.
Fuck the police
Yeah cool thing goober I'm still not getting a felony charge so you can drink at my house
Cool it down a bit fellas, everyone on this website isn't from the same country and doesn't have the same alcohol rules.
It does feel a bit like some US vs. Europe back an forth going on here.
Expand that to culture too, some places it's somewhat common for a family to allow a teen some wine during dinner and that sort of thing, it's not seen as irresponsible at all.
This is so true. My dad taught be to be responsible with alcohol, and he did it without throwing a rager and then begging a bunch of teens to be responsible and practice temperence.
We just had a beer and watched some kung fu movies and talked about it. My kids will get the same treatment.
I feel like everyone knows of some dumb parent because they threw a rager, because "If they're going to drink, they should do it in a safe space," and then got the book thrown at them over an underage DUI case. I'd argue that a party is an inherently unsafe space for kids to learn about alcohol. There's too much going on, too much peer pressure, and too much alcohol to be yourself and learn your limit.
Reminds me of this masterpiece
https://youtu.be/IBRL7D0wcXM
Problem is it looks worse to a judge if the adults were present at the party. It’s liability.
Perhaps the more disturbing thing is they lack the drive to break the rules.
We hosted parties for our daughters when they were teens (15-16). They weren't big - maybe 8 to 10 friends. No alcohol, but lots of food off the grill. On occasion, we let them drink alcohol with us after they turned 18 at home with no friends, which is legal in our state.