My dad said 'Same place as last time' just before he picked me up from work; he died minutes after saying goodnight to me and retiring to his room, I don't think I'll ever escape the feeling that if any number of things had gone differently I could've done something.
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This was a discord conversation
I said just hop by sometime
The reply was Ok will do
He ended his own life shortly after and the group didn't find out until after the funeral weeks later.
My cousin told me to stop worrying so much about what people think and to live my life the way I want to, cause that's what really matters.
A week later she threw herself in front of a train.
I got a missed call message from my dad inviting me round for a BBQ for his birthday. Missed the call was off wiith work. He had a heart attack and died at the bbq
"I hope it never fades" in response to me telling her that I fell in love in a different way over the weekend we spent together.
Backstory: my mom wanted a very specific clock from a furniture store.
She passed from esophageal cancer 6 weeks later and 6 years ago next week.
Roughly translated: "If you don't understand now, maybe you will someday that with the end of this illness, I emerge greater, not lesser. Carry me with you, and I'll live more completely in essence than I lived in substance. This is your journey, steer the way for us."
Every year we have a big family group chat to decide who will bring what to Thanksgiving even though everyone ends up bringing the same thing every year. I always bring pies.
This year, my young, recently-married cousin said his wife was going to bake a pumpkin pie. He got that message out just moments before I hit send on my annual "I'll bring pies" text. A few minutes later I got a text from my dad saying, "Your grandma wanted to make sure you didn't buy a pumpkin pie since Allie is going to make one." I said I did see it and I promised not to upstage the newest member of the family. Apple and cherry were still mine to cover.
Three days later grandma died in her sleep, and I take that as a sign to never buy pumpkin pie again.
Sorry meant to reply to the thread not you.
My best friend thanking me for loaning him more money before ending his life.
My dad said, "I'll see you later".
Ooooh this made me teary eyed. My dad was my hero and he absolutely adored me, when he passed away unexpectedly I still remember him saying goodbye while getting out the door carrying his coffee thermos and briefcase. I miss him everyday.
It's actually a little less happy. He was late stage cancer and either the chemo or cancer was affecting his thought. He was bend transferred to a hospice care facility, but only understood that he was leaving the hospital. We were on the phone and I had purchased a plane ticket and he was saying how I shouldn't have because it's much nicer to visit in the summer, but that he was getting out of the hospital and maybe we'd go to this new golf course that he had just discovered and then his favorite restaurant. I agreed and we said goodbye and he said, "I'll see you later."
When Mom got back on the phone, she said that he was confused and that he was actually going to hospice care. It didn't really register because he seemed so normal. He had fallen into a coma shortly after getting transferred to the hospice facility and passed by the time I got there.
He was firmly atheist, so I chuckle to think that maybe he knew something when he said those last words. I guess we'll see.
I am sorry OP. Cancer is such an awful thing.
Not me directly, but I was ccโd:
Do we really want to spend time and resources patching dev and stage? I actually believe those two environments should be totally decommissioned.
I think we should shut them down, at a minimum, for the time being. These are no longer being used. Prod SP 2016 should stay current because it is still being referenced.
Any opinions?