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Especially if you have kids and work all day

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[–] h54@programming.dev 66 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

A good diet and making time for exercise are huge.

[–] fishpen0@lemmy.world 34 points 2 weeks ago

The worst part is how starting these things makes everything worse for 2-4 weeks until you get used to it and then doesn’t really bring noticeable returns for another 2-4 weeks.

And the older you are before you start the longer it takes and harder it is to get going

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[–] Melatonin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 62 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

What I used to do was be younger. Worked really well for a long time.

[–] UnRelatedBurner@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

haha than I'm screwing something else up

[–] icecreamtaco@lemmy.world 55 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Honestly I was already tired. This just makes me tired, plus more

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[–] Montagge@lemmy.zip 42 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

I use a CPAP every night. One of the best things I've ever done for myself!

[–] folkrav@lemmy.ca 25 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

Same, it quite literally changed my life. I went from sleeping 12h in a row, still waking up groggy and generally being a walking zombie, to being functional after 7h of sleep. Young children still make it hard to get those 7h of consecutive sleep, but this gets better with time.

[–] CodingCarpenter@lemm.ee 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Hell yeah I had a really poor memory and was always exhausted. I had to nap every day. Now with the CPAP I get 8 hours of sleep and I can remember things that happened weeks ago

[–] folkrav@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Do you remember what your AHI (Apnea-Hypopnea Index, number of "events" oper hour) was? Normal is 5 or less, severe sleep apnea is 30 or more - I was at 69 events an hour. Considering an event is either 10 seconds or more without breathing (or a more or less equivalent drop in blood oxygenation due to partial respiratory tract blockage), it means I wasn't breathing for at least an hour and half every night πŸ˜‚

[–] CodingCarpenter@lemm.ee 6 points 2 weeks ago

I was 27. With the CPAP I'm down to less than one. It's amazing

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[–] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 weeks ago

The CPAP was great, but my previous terrible sleeping habits masked a few other issues, it was a series of things to resolve. (Sleep got better, but I stopped tossing and turning, making back issues worse, so I needed to stop sleeping how I was, etc.)

[–] SkaveRat@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 2 weeks ago

similarly: I bought anti-snore bite guard to help with sleep apnea.

Feeling actually refreshed after waking up feels unreal

[–] DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 2 weeks ago

Yup! CPAP. Fix your sleep and you'll feel awake during the day.

I don't feel sleepy in the afternoon anymore. I sleep and night and stay awake during the day.

[–] Today@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

How did you get used to the mask?

[–] DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Three things:

  1. Don't stop until you find the right mask. There are a lot of options.
  2. Change is always awkward at first. It will take time to get used to.
  3. Adjust your attitude. Most people are already convinced that they're not going to like a CPAP and are angry they have to wear one. Make the effort to be healthy. Eating healthy and getting exercise aren't fun for most people either. Getting quality sleep is just as important.
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[–] caboose2006@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 weeks ago (6 children)

Three weeks of agony. Totally worth it. I have a deviated septum so I can't do a nose pillow, but there's really low impact options if you're able.

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[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 33 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

I get adequate sleep. A society that doesn't let you is a society that is trying too hard.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 5 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I wish! But how can you sleep when there's so much you can do!

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[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 30 points 2 weeks ago (4 children)

Nana nap. Every afternoon if I can. Just a half hour power nap, and the difference it makes is phenomenal.

I can stay sharp all afternoon, and right up to bed time, with just a very fast nap in the afternoon. I'm all for it.

[–] aeno@discuss.tchncs.de 21 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Every time I've tried 15-30 minute naps I was completely wasted afterwards. Powernapping isn't for everyone I guess.

[–] dgriffith@aussie.zone 14 points 2 weeks ago

There are phases of sleep that you pass through. Seems like you pass through the lighter ones relatively quickly and you're getting dragged awake out of a deep sleep phase.

Either give it a little bit longer (like 35-45 minutes) or try 10 minute catnaps.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 7 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

There was an android app that monitored your breathing and motion when the phone is placed next to you on the bed. It claimed to wake you when you were in the right sleep cycle to wake up clear. I tried it as an alarm clock replacement and it seemed to work...but it was years ago and I forget the app name

[–] Kayday@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)
[–] makingStuffForFun@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 weeks ago

I've heard that, yes. There is a moment of grogginess for me. Maybe 10 to 15 minutes. But that leaves, and the rest of the day is like a fresh day.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 weeks ago

In 2k1 my company moved a telecommuter back inside; some management dork demanded it. He said "yeah, but I take a nap after lunch, and I'm gonna take a nap after lunch." And he did. And we all heard and envied his ability to do so.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 2 weeks ago

Took one after your comment for 1.4 hours. It was nice!

During a summer intensive I studied all morning then napped all afternoon then worked out. That was the life.

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[–] Pechente@feddit.org 18 points 2 weeks ago

Exercise really helped against feeling tired for me. I also sleep much better since I started going for runs around 3 times a week. It does eat up a lot of my time though.

[–] algernon@lemmy.ml 17 points 2 weeks ago

Lie to myself, and chug another cup of coffee.

[–] IDKWhatUsernametoPutHereLolol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

DRUGS!

I mean Caffine lol

Caffine is soooo good

[–] Aksamit@slrpnk.net 6 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Green tea is good for the caffeine boost without the jitters you get with coffee. Less acidic too, so it's easier to drink loads of it.

[–] Delphia@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago

Preworkout. 2 scoops and I am fucking unstoppable. Also insufferable, and slightly manic but shit gets done!

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[–] tacotroubles@lemmy.world 16 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Sounds like pure cope, but it really helps. I wait to drink any caffeine until 90 minutes after I've gotten out of bed. The brain can utilize the caffeine better that way and really gets me going.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 2 weeks ago

This is actually an awesome tip! As I've gotten older I've been able to feel this more and more. Sometimes I get up and can tell coffee will only hurt.

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[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 14 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

First thing out of bed, hydrate. Then I'm eating, then I'm showering, etc, but for me on 600ml water.

a short while later, I'm starting the caffeine cycle, but I try to do 1:1 coffee and water, same volume. Ideally, to keep the hydration going.

Some days nothing's gonna help, and I have the RedBull on sinful standby. I raise the desk, move about to keep the blood flowing, and bop to the music in the hopes the blood flowing will bring me out of an all-day stupor.

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[–] Catsrules@lemmy.ml 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Maybe you should do a sleep study.

[–] ComradeMiao@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 2 weeks ago

signed up for one but its a while from now sadly...

[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 9 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

Monitor caffeine and sleep amount. I've also heard good things from removing the number of decisions you take each day.

[–] portuga@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Sleep a lot and being indecisive. I can see that working for myself, thanks.

[–] olafurp@lemmy.world 5 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Not indecisive, being more decisive or develop weekly schedules. More like wake up, shower, brush teeth, feed kids the monday menu instead of deciding what they are going to eat then if you're going to finish food first or shower first.

That's just theory though, I personally work well with a bulk decide then bulk execute strategy. I also take always the top shirt on a stack and whatnot. I have the same at work where I outline what I'll do in which order and then I just do that.

Works for me, got the advice from elsewhere and have nothing else to support this claim.

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[–] kava@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

I sleep 8 hours a night and wake up at the same time every day. I've found that as long as my sleep schedule is consistent and reliable, my energy levels are fine. It doesn't really matter how busy I am throughout the day.

Once the sleep schedule gets out of whack (I sleep in too much, or have to wake up at 3am for work trip) then it takes a good 5 days or so to go back to normal

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 8 points 2 weeks ago

There was an option to not feel tired everyday???

[–] Subtracty@lemmy.world 8 points 2 weeks ago

Excersice. I know, it sounds trite. But working out has helped me sleep more soundly despite getting less sleep. I have a few weights in my basement and when my kid is sleeping, I go downstairs and lift heavily. Especially leg workouts, your legs are a huge portion of your body and getting those muscles working is great. It usually takes me ~20 minutes to workup a sweat. Before I had a child I used to try cardio for longer periods of time. But I am more satisfied with short, difficult strength workouts.

[–] Tehdastehdas@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago

Blood test of everything that affects it, and then correcting my daily nutrients accordingly.

[–] KingThrillgore@lemmy.ml 6 points 1 week ago
[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 week ago

That's the funny thing, you don't

[–] Didros@beehaw.org 4 points 1 week ago

Do cocain about it.

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)
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[–] Shialac@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

Sleep enough. Check for any deficiencies, especially Vitamin D when you live somewhere in the northern hemisphere

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 3 points 1 week ago

I don’t have kids but I do generally work all day.

  • Avoid inflammatory foods
  • Take creatine supplements (avoid if you have kidney problems)
  • Stay well-hydrated
  • Resolve moral conflicts
  • Get enough sleep
  • Exercise
  • Eat healthy food
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