Ask Lemmy

Break up!

Grab a brush and put a little make up!

"Guys I just hooked up my new set of 5.1 speakers and I'm getting a little buzzing in the subwoofer I can't track down, what do I do?"

"You should break up, he's totally cheating on you."

Karma in the west is grossly misunderstood anyway. pisses me off

Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.

Some people may be thinking of what’s called the “benefits cliff”. At certain points you lose the ability to take certain tax credits or deductions. Theoretically this could result in a higher net out of pocket for you, but in the grand scheme it’s really minor, so always take the raise.

For anyone here who doesn't understand why this is bad advice, it's because income tax increases only apply to income made above that threshold.

Let's do a simple example and pretend there's only 2 tax brackets. From 0-50k tax is 10% and over 50k it's 20%.

If you make exactly 50k your tax burden will be 5k and you'll take home 45k a year.

If you get a 1k raise, only the final thousand is taxed at the higher rate, so your tax burden will be 5200 (10% of the first 50k and 20% of the remainder), and you'll take home 45,800 a year.

So even though you change tax brackets, you still make more money.

The same people who think they pay federal tax dollars cause they never realize they get it all back and then some.

I'd say about 20% of people I encounter, including people in my immediate family, still believe this.

My uncle believes this and has made life decisions based on it ... but has a financial advisor. So either that advisor sucks or he hasn't actually discussed finances with them.

In the UK there is a point between 100 and 125k where the tax levels of being in that region make it more financially prudent to do pension salary sacrifice or a similar scheme. You should still take the pay rise obviously.

Edit: To illustrate it I think the marginal tax rate jumos to ~60% or something like that between 100-124k. but then moves back down to 47% after you earn over 125k for some reason.

You know who take this advice too seriously? Assholes.

You still need to follow your society's expected behaviors. Like showering or wearing shoes in public venues.

A big problem is people not picking up certain queues and being ostracized then continuing to follow "be yourself." It's a downward spiral.

1. Learn to fit in
2. Learn when and where "rules" can be bent/broken
3. Then be yourself

The retort to that is, “be yourself, unless you’re and arsehole, then be someone else”

This also depends on the society you are living in. Good luck with "being yourself" in north korea, or even any east asian countries.

"Fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are." -Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

I can't imagine any relationship working without some degree of compromise. But as to the other part of your comment, I've found The One several times in my life. They were right at the time, there was a deep connection, and later, things changed. But it was real and I don't regret a minute of any of those times.