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Do lesbians have a concept of Top and Bottom? (lemmy.world)

submitted 2 weeks ago by stoicmaverick@lemmy.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It's been a long ol time since I've known any lesbians well enough to ask such things, but I followed my brain down a weird line of inquiry, and got to wondering about the current state of the art for the gay gals. I guess I had always assumed it was similar to the dynamics of a gay guy relationship, but then I realized that since men have both an input and an output, they can choose, but it's mechanically a bit different for cis women. Is there any relationship between that, and the slightly more masculine versus feminine flavors? Asking for a friend, who is me. I want to know. Thanks.

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[–] TheOubliette@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

In addition to the cis lesbian explanations below, don't forget about our trans lesbian friends.

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[–] MicrondeMMMMMMM@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 weeks ago

Me and my gal do have a top/bottom dynamic but it's not very strong, like it's just flirting and foreplay.

There is no top or bottom when we do anything physically sexual, we just do it together and that's great :)

[–] shalafi@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

C'mon OP, every sort of human sexual interaction has dynamics like this. Top or bottom, submissive or dominant, switching it up, all that, we humans do it.

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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I don’t think there’s any group that doesn’t have some members who like domination. But I’m just speculating and am not an expert.

[–] stoicmaverick@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago

Well I, on the other hand, AM an Expert Dominator.

[–] match@pawb.social 0 points 2 weeks ago

i think it's more of a face/heel dynamic

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