Sex doesn't need to define you, neither does being a virgin.
Sex is part of a healthy life but putting it on a pedestal and letting it impact your image of yourself will only lead to toxicity.
this post was submitted on 11 Jun 2024
-23 points (26.5% liked)
Lemmy Shitpost
26948 readers
3118 users here now
Welcome to Lemmy Shitpost. Here you can shitpost to your hearts content.
Anything and everything goes. Memes, Jokes, Vents and Banter. Though we still have to comply with lemmy.world instance rules. So behave!
Rules:
1. Be Respectful
Refrain from using harmful language pertaining to a protected characteristic: e.g. race, gender, sexuality, disability or religion.
Refrain from being argumentative when responding or commenting to posts/replies. Personal attacks are not welcome here.
...
2. No Illegal Content
Content that violates the law. Any post/comment found to be in breach of common law will be removed and given to the authorities if required.
That means:
-No promoting violence/threats against any individuals
-No CSA content or Revenge Porn
-No sharing private/personal information (Doxxing)
...
3. No Spam
Posting the same post, no matter the intent is against the rules.
-If you have posted content, please refrain from re-posting said content within this community.
-Do not spam posts with intent to harass, annoy, bully, advertise, scam or harm this community.
-No posting Scams/Advertisements/Phishing Links/IP Grabbers
-No Bots, Bots will be banned from the community.
...
4. No Porn/Explicit
Content
-Do not post explicit content. Lemmy.World is not the instance for NSFW content.
-Do not post Gore or Shock Content.
...
5. No Enciting Harassment,
Brigading, Doxxing or Witch Hunts
-Do not Brigade other Communities
-No calls to action against other communities/users within Lemmy or outside of Lemmy.
-No Witch Hunts against users/communities.
-No content that harasses members within or outside of the community.
...
6. NSFW should be behind NSFW tags.
-Content that is NSFW should be behind NSFW tags.
-Content that might be distressing should be kept behind NSFW tags.
...
If you see content that is a breach of the rules, please flag and report the comment and a moderator will take action where they can.
Also check out:
Partnered Communities:
1.Memes
10.LinuxMemes (Linux themed memes)
Reach out to
All communities included on the sidebar are to be made in compliance with the instance rules. Striker
founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
The only reason why I'm putting sex on a pedestal is because I can't stop thinking about it. That's why I really wish I was Asexual so that wouldn't think about sex anymore.
Is this 4chan?
/b/
No
Please don't fall into that incel mindset.
Just assume that you'll lose your virginity eventually and stop stressing about it so much, you'll be a lot happier and women tend to be attached to people who are happy. Stressing over it is doing the opposite of what you want.
But the problem is I have no interest at all in being in a romantic relationship with women. All I want to do is pay a multiple attractive women to have sex with me. But unfortunately prostitution is illegal in Canada so unfortunately I will be a virgin forever.
Go join the porn industry.
I can see the title now, "sad virgin boy gets pegged by multiple women".
There are other countries than canada. But that probably isn't a possibolity for you, with your can't-do-attitude.
True I could go to Germany and pay a woman to have sex with me. But the problem is that I do not know how to speak German.
Don't even have to go that far. Nevada has legal prostitution.
I did Google "closest brothels to Canada" and it seems like there are plenty in Canada. Apparently, while it is illegal to buy sex, police don't enforce this as they have plenty of actual crimes to be keeping themselves busy with.
So, if it means so much to the OP, they should save up their pennies and go somewhere like Vancouver.
Fun fact: just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Also, I know hookup culture has changed a lot in the decade and a half since I was your age but it’s still possible to have sex at not be in a relationship
Fun fact: just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
I'd have definitely had a lot less fun if I'd steered clear if anything that breaks the law.
The problem is I'm a ugly old man so unfortunately no very attractive woman is ever going to have sex with me just for the fun of it.
Ig I just assumed you were younger. Regardless, appearance is 50% something you can actually control. Just learn to dress well and how to hold a conversation
Bro. You're putting the pussy on a pedestal.
Your issue is not that you are a virgin, it’s that you are a loser. Just get a fucking passport and go to Las Vegas or Reno and punch your ticket. You live right above these cities and there is a lot to do there for non sex fun. But noooooooo you can’t figure out how to buy an airplane ticket and reserve a hotel room. There is something called online travel websites. Try those and stop whining on the internet. Jesus….
Adding on to what other said (it's not that big a deal): Just because prostitution is illegal does not mean you cant pay for a sexworker, it just makes it slightly harder to find. Making a porno is often legal, so just have a camera somewhere on a tripod and BOOM, welcome to the film industry ☺️. My local laws permit sexwork, and I don't think it is amoral to sell sex, so if you don't too and you are this fixated on it, ask around a bit!
I don't want to make a porno though. All I want to do is pay a very attractive woman to have sex with me just once. So that I'm no longer a virgin anymore. Because I believe that once I have sex. I will no longer care about it anymore.
"Software is like sex: it's better when it's free" - Linus Torvalds.
"If you do have to pay for it, go to a reputable supplier and make sure it is free from infection." - Addition by some redditor.
No woman will ever have sex with me for free because I'm a ugly old man who is also a manlet.
Go volunteer at Volunteers For the Blind Inc or some shit.
What the fuck is that?
Your mental outlook is uglier than your body, guaranteed. I've seen plenty of short kings who aren't manly pull in pussy like it's nothing, and chads drier than a desert all based on personality.
Fix your world view and you'll see your luck change. Or keep things how it is and keep on being unhappy about it, I'm not your dad.
In my experience, sex is like board games. It's fun while you're doing it, but the pleasure is finished soon enough. It's not a life-changing event. If you don't get to play board-games very often, or never before, or you just don't enjoy it - that does not define you.
I know you're just venting rather than looking for answers, but sex isn't as important as many people seem to think.
The problem is since I am a virgin. I will never know if having sex is enjoyable or not.
I mean, you could get neutered. It works for dogs 🤷🏻♂️
You can literally find sex workers anywhere you are. I assume you can go online and find some. There's always the yellow pages as well haha.
But yeah, maybe work on your views. If you don't work on the underlying problem, you're probably not going to feel any better. Could probably seek a therapist via a doctor's referral since you're in Canada.
Those sex workers that are online could be cops uncover so I don't want to risk that because I don't want to go to jail.
Yes they're actually all police trying to entrap you. Did you think about the latter part of my post? Also it's kinda weird mentioning 18 year olds (I Guess unless you're 18ish), if not, probably another thing to address with a professional.
I am a old man and I personally do not think it's morally wrong for me pay a 18 year old woman to have sex with me because me and her are both consenting adults. So what me and her are doing is completely harmless.
Agreed. But focusing on that specific aspect comes off pretty creepy.
For the last time, have you considered the latter part of any of my replies? Honestly, it seems like some sort of underlying issue that you need to work through (coming from a random person on the Internet who has no education in psychological issues).
But it's something to consider. Being in Canada, you have much more access to it than people in many other countries.
I want to scream like Lois Griffin every time you say grinds my gears. AHHHHHH HE SAID IT!
Why don't you get married etc...instead of paying hookers
The reason why I don't want to get married is because. All I want to do in life is lift weights, play video games and have sex with women everyday.
I do not want to go on any dates with women and I do not want a woman to live with me in my house. Because I do not want anyone in general coming to my house.
Same. Join the club