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I’m a man. Only ever dated, been attracted to women. Recently I met this guy and I’m having weird feelings. I can’t quite tell if I’m attracted to him as a person or just like the way he treats me; nonetheless something makes me want to treat him differently than any other guys - the way I would a girl I suppose. My friends say I might be attracted to femininity in general regardless of gender and that’s why I feel this way, and the reason why it hasn’t surfaced until now is because I haven’t yet met a guy to tick those boxes. Wondering if anyone has been through something similar.

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[–] treefrog@lemm.ee 11 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

I tend to find myself attracted to kind, not aggressive men. I don't think of them as feminine men. They can be quite masculine and still kind and not aggressive.

I was a feminine man, now I'm a trans woman. I still mostly find women attractive, because men tend to be socialized to be aggressive and I don't like aggressive energy.

One of these kind, non-aggressive men, the first man I was ever attracted to, is still a dear friend of mine and dating a trans woman himself now. I believe our deep love for each other is something that helped us both to accept ourselves. Even though we've never been romantically involved with each other.