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Anything that boils down to "stop thinking". For example "have faith in the future", "follow your guts", "YOLO".
Being stuck because of worrying and overthinking is not a good place. Calls to action are the only way to improve the situation.
Acting is essential. However, acting is not mutually exclusive with thinking; in fact if someone acts without thinking they're likely only causing themself and the others harm.
And this sort of advice is rarely about "think then act", it's always "don't think, only act".
Don’t overthink is the gist. Most decisions aren’t permanent and can be reversed.
For many, any thinking is overthinking; because they believe that acting and thinking are mutually exclusive. And this happens to be the sort of people who typically says stuff like I listed.
And they keep doing dumb shit over and over and over and over. Harming the ones around them - not due to malice, but due to mental laziness.
Most decisions might not be permanent, but you won't know which ones without thinking.
A lot of rules help with that. I have one that says "a bad in hindsight decision is better than no decision". Ultimately, think about something but when you get stuck just "yolo" it, instead of doing nothing. So far haven't regretted it. Also, repeated decisions having paths set in stone based on previous experience. I.e. I'm in bed, cozy, but start to feel the need to pee. I always get up to go to the toilet instead of holding it in.
Some of them are good advise, but like any advise take it with a grain of salt and get to the core of the advise and that is what often goes missing.
Yolo is a good thing/example if we are talking about life experiences and just experiencing them. But that doesnt mean you should jump of a bridge without any safety cords or doing coke everything for the kicks haha.
It essientially means that if you can, do something new (safely) so you enjoy life instead of only living it.
Same holds for the other examples you gave.