Hey, while our situations are not the same, I highly relate to what you say, remember you are not alone in your struggles.

For making friends, I recommend looking out for other neurodivergent people, we kinda look out for each other and we understand each other's struggles. Also, in my experience, LGBTQ communities are more welcome to neurodivergency.

You kinda need to find a way to socialise while not draining your energy, don't be afraid to ask for what you need or set boundaries. For example, I have a friend that sometimes we take a walk, pick a bench and just chill there silently.

For work, I guess any advice would depend on both your needs and your area of work. If working from home isn't an option where you live, maybe it's possible to work for a company abroad. Also, don't be afraid to ask for any accommodations you need, it's not perfect but it can help a tonne.

Last but not least, I haven't tried it, but maybe you can get a therapist online, the online therapy market is booming right now, and there are multiple low cost options/discounts. It may take a while to find a therapist you feel compatible with, don't be afraid to change if you don't feel comfortable. Don't be discouraged if you hear a crazy amount, you will find better deals, lots of these platforms are targeting Americans able to pay for a session more than my take at home income...