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What wouldn't you tell your loved ones, but you can tell people on the Internet? (lemmy.world)
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[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 35 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I can’t feel empathy and the only reason why I am sad when you are sad is because I’ve learned that faking it makes you happier.

[–] Fleur__@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago (4 children)

So you do something for no reason for the benefit of someone who is suffering while you are not suffering? How empathetic lmao

[–] GreenMario@lemm.ee 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Wouldn't that just be sympathy?

[–] TimewornTraveler@lemm.ee -1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Trivial distinction. they recognize someone is hurting. who started this whole symp/emp divide? it literally never comes up in counseling school

[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Who started this? Highschool level psych 101 classes. Its an easy distinction to teach kids about psychopathy/sociopathy but reality can be a little more nuanced. I also imagine that counseling is about treating emotionally damaged people with the idea they can improve mentally not instantly judging them 'oh well youre an unfeeling psychopath monster and always will be because you didn't have empathy for this person in this situation'

[–] shandrakor@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's exactly what I thought.. it's just empathy with extra steps?

[–] p5f20w18k@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

Manual empathy

[–] Usernameblankface@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Not for no reason, for the good of the other person is the reason.

[–] angrystego@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

That's not empathy, it's altruism.