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[–] Blake@feddit.uk 114 points 1 year ago (32 children)

Hijacking your thread to advocate for my lazy ideology. Disclaimer I have pretty severe ADHD so this might be extreme for most people but for me this makes life liveable.

Forget trying to make things look super tidy and neat like in an IKEA commercial. Make your living space functional, comfortable and easy to maintain. Reduce the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort required to maintain your environment. For example, for laundry:

  1. Don’t iron anything unless you really need/want to. (Job interview, going on a date, appearing in court, etc.)
  2. Anywhere you’re liable to undress, have a basket for dirty clothes. It should be open-topped (no lid!) and mobile, like a laundry basket, so when you need to do a load of laundry, you can pick up and use the whole basket - functioning both as the hamper and the basket. Bedroom and bathroom are the usual places for this! You want the act of tossing dirty clothes in the laundry to be just as easy as tossing it on the floor.
  3. There’s no such thing as odd socks. They’re called mix ‘n’ match socks now. Like Mashems!
  4. No neatly folded clothes or hangers or anything like that, except for very special things such as in point 1 - everything just gets dumped into big drawers based on category. I have little fabric boxes that fit into a kallax to keep this relatively neat looking but super easy.
  5. If something can’t survive going in the washing machine mixed load cycle and the tumble dryer daily load, it is not welcome in my life. (There’s a similar rule about the dishwasher!)

You get the idea. Embrace your laziness, don't bother yourself with half a second what people might think of how you live. This is surprisingly neat and orderly and takes almost no effort to maintain. If you keep finding your basket is misplaced, buy another basket and keep it in two places. Stop fighting the current and go with your flow. Accept who you are, even if you’re a lazy bitch like me!

[–] lunchboxhero@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

So, let me get this right, you don’t fold your clothes? Rather you just crumple them up and put them in the drawer?

I never thought of this as a viable solution but I am going to try it out! Folding laundry is my #1 chore left undone. I end up “living out of the basket” and nothing is ever done.

[–] Blake@feddit.uk 17 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You’re absolutely right. I don’t fold shit. If I need to wear a proper shirt then I’ll iron it when I need it, but usually just wear T-Shirts & polo shirts, so it doesn’t matter.

Yep, just give yourself permission to live out of the basket and put the basket on a shelf. It’s tidier and you don’t feel as bad about it.

[–] LinkOpensChest_wav@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I like you. My husband has ADHD and he does the same thing. I fold my own clothes because it's relaxing for me, but no one should feel like they have to.

[–] Blake@feddit.uk 6 points 1 year ago

Thank you, and yes, absolutely, sometimes I go beyond this as well (for example, I’ll decide to pair up some socks) but it’s always an added extra bonus, not an expectation that I’m failing to meet. Psychology matters as much as anything!

[–] klemptor@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 year ago (2 children)

But don't your clothes get all wrinkly that way? I'm a neat freak and I can't imagine living like that lol

[–] CrabLord@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

In my experience, I don't care about wrinkles. Usually nothing is too wrinkly unless it's been buried for a while. Once I started putting the clothes in the drawers they were significantly less wrinkly.

[–] Blake@feddit.uk 1 points 1 year ago

No, I mostly just wear t shirts and polo shirts and it doesn’t get wrinkly at all. It appears very neat until you open the drawer, and I’m the only one who does that anyways.

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